Would the Real You Please Show Itself?

Question:

(Pastor J.) i have another problem

You see i lied to my girlfriend....it wasnt big and bad just a smal insignificant lie....but she found out (i said i dont swear much, but i do) i asked her is it so wrong that i lied to get you to like me...........and she said that it wasnt the lie it was that you lied............ this is what she said.

i wasnt mad at you. i was just kinda upset at the fact that you said you were probalbly the nicest guy i would meet and you barely cursed. i thought that was awesome. and u made me smile. im not like other girls. i dont hang out with the cool crowd. i dont follow the hurd. im my own person. i dont care if no one likes me or if they all love me. i will not change or lie just to make someone like me. i understand where your coming from, and i feel horrible just thinking about the stuff you've been through, but dont let that hold you back or change who you really are. dont let it make you soft or too hard. be you. Thats the reason i was upset, because i thought u WERE different from other guys. but then you lied to me and seemed to be just like all the others..

Sometimes my mom tells me she can see the hurt in my eyes. even when im smileing. she tells me they look like pools of sadness drowning me, and pooling me further into the dark. she tells me thats why im losing my friends. thats why my grades drop. thats why my heart still aches. all because i gave up. i dont wanna see the same happen to you. your only a Sophmore. im about to head out into the real world and fight some more. ima give it every last inch of me, my energy, my heart and soul.

Response:

Wow... I get you brother and I believe that part of you (deep down in the core of who you are) is who she is looking for and who you told her you were.  And then... there's the part that has been shaped by the circumstances of life and of your own personal decisions.  Sounds like she has both of those sides as well.  The "I am who I am" side and then the side that isn't "hard" but maybe a little more on the "emo" side!  ANY emotional state of our outward self certainly reflects the spiritual state of our inward self!  Where we are or aren't with Jesus?

John 16:33"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." (Jesus Speaking)

Pastor advice ~ Jesus shows us who we really are... he connects us with the core of how and who we were created to BE!  It's the only real true way to be who we were meant to be.  Funny thing is... it ends up being something/someone far beyond who we ever thought possible (speaking of one's own self).  It's like... seriously God, you created me to be this!?!?!?  It's more than I ever thought I could be!

Lies affect trust... TRUST is what all relationships revolve around!  Don't just be you and I encourage her to not just be who "she" thinks she is.  Get deeper with Jesus and he will reveal to you who you were made to be!  Dude, when a young man does that for real... girls can't help but be overwhelmed by what God does!

Seek First!

J.